Have you heard someone tell you to “Only give what you want most”?
Since it is the first day of Winter and we are getting closer to Christmas and the beginning of Hanukkah (nod to my readers who celebrate the holidays), I wanted to look into this idea for one of my featured posts. However, it doesn’t look like this is a famous saying at all, although I’ve heard of it.
This is a stupid little rant but please bear with me. I’m talking part in Write Anything Wednesday, doggone-it!
Where Have I Heard It?
I only really heard this said two times. I’m not sure how old I was when I first heard it, but one of those times was definitely on television.
On a kid’s show, one boy was giving away some of his toys to charity for Christmas. He evaluated all his toys and decided to give away his favorite toy, citing the “rule.”
Why Don’t I Like This Idea?
To be honest, I’ve always had a problem with the idea of only giving what one wants most, provided one is giving away their possessions. Why?
For one thing, I don’t see the point. Of course, giving a toy to a child who might otherwise have no gifts is a nice thing to do. It could make that kid’s day. But should it come at the cost of making the giver miserable or slightly peeved?
I know if I was a kid, I wouldn’t want to give away my favorite toy. It might sound selfish, but if I gave that away, there would be no point in me keeping the other toys. You might as well just take all of them since I won’t be able to have much enjoyment from them (without my favorite).
Secondly, what if the other person is receiving something they don’t necessarily want (or need) it? I know, that might sound ungrateful on the other person’s part, but the act of giving is more purposeful if a person is given something they want or need.
I mean, it’s not like a husband buying a brand new drill for his wife because he wants it, knowing full well she doesn’t do any handy work around the house. You know he fully expects her to let him have it. That’s pretty selfish, right?
In the case of giving a prized possession, the intent is the opposite, but it could be pointless if the recipient doesn’t accept it anyway.
Third, what if the person’s most prized possession was a gift? Then that person would be asked to re-gift something. That’s pretty tacky. 😕
Who Said It Is Best To Give What One Wants Most?
I question why someone would come up with this rule in the first place. Part of me suspects someone made this up because they coveted another person’s Christmas present. Hmm … 💡